things you swore to be true

can we assign ourself to the fringes of someone's life? can we elect to remove ourselves from the day to day of a person? from the things that effect them, and change them? can we be a constant influence from the sidelines?

and how fulfilling can a relationship be when the only reference you have of a person is isolated? are you then getting the whole person or merely the part that they project as desirable? and is it wrong to be okay with taking that removed part?

can you escape to person . . use a person as a way to be yourself and discard insecurity and love them for that? no, but you can love them for the function in your life .. 

is that selfish? of course .. but is it even more selfish to like that spot .. and to realize that because you have been placed in that role the other person also places himself in the same role. and is it ok to be that to each other and live your lives? 

or does it back fire. . can you really be all of yourself to someone else when you have a part of yourself you can only be with another person?

and isn't all of this wildly unhealthy to begin with? especially after 6 years ..