fate once it's happened

if you are consciously aware of your unconscious defense mechanisms does that give you the ability to intersect them? or does it give you the chance to stand on the sidelines and watch yourself sabotage what could be good .. or could hurt .. or could follow the pattern that your subconscious has been constructed to prevent you from feeling . . again?

and if you know how your subconscious will function to destroy what you are scared of is it then conscious self sabotage to let your unconscious defense mechanisms take control?  are you acknowledging your subconscious only to step aside and let it do what you are scared it will do? because if you were truly going to make changes in your responses you would intersect the defense mechanism that sabotages potential.

or are you subconsciously so scared of that potential that you are unconsciously letting your conscious think it is in control? can you ever really be in complete control of your own emotional functioning? or is that the essential element that closes you off from connecting to other people?  

can you override all of this and just get what you want .. or is it that you can know all this about yourself and still not know what you want?

or if it is what you need -